Suzy's dad, Richard, is in the last stage of his life. In the video below, she shares what that journey has been like — the hard parts, the unexpected gifts, and what has kept her going.
My dad, Richard, is in the last stage of his life. It's a strange mix of ordinary and extraordinary.
One of the most ordinary challenges has been loneliness — his, not just mine. After Mum passed, Dad just ached for company. Making sure he wasn't isolated became one of the most important parts of his care. It's a reminder that connection matters right to the end. Even in a care facility. Especially in a care facility.
The other ordinary struggle is the sheer emotional weight of it. Watching Dad decline slowly is incredibly hard, especially while still trying to show up for the rest of my life. It can feel very isolating — which is why having someone to talk to, a listening ear that truly gets it, has meant so much.
But there's extraordinary in the ordinary too. The rare moments of lucidity with Dad are treasures. His honesty. His love. In those moments he becomes an anchor in the storm. These are the memories I hold onto when things feel like too much.
Through all of it, I've learned the importance of being kind to myself. It's okay not to be there every single moment. It's okay to need support. That's not failing — that's being human.
Sharing this feels like a way to reach across to others who are walking something similar. We are not alone in this. Strength really can be found in the most ordinary acts of love and presence.
That's what keeps me going.
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